I was inspired to post this write up when I received a beautiful presentation on relationships from one of my friends. A perfect relation in real sense is just like a dream. But we can always give our best to reach there.
Any kind of relationship fails because one party demands too much or tries to overpower another. People in love tend to think that love will conquer all, and their spouses will change the bad habits after the marriage.
Actually this is not the case. It has lot to do with the saying that, “It is not possible to reshape a person’s character”. Since it is not at all easy to change we are unable to leave over habits. Thus having high expectations on changing spouse habits will cause disappointment and offensiveness. It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations. No overpowering should be there. There is a sweet couple whom I know; they are enjoying a very lovely married life. No one has seen them in dispute ever. When they were asked the secret shared by them was not criticizing the spouse even when it does something wrong. Always keep in mind that because of the shortcomings of each other, the another one could not find a better spouse then him or her.
Generally when a person makes a mistake he would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger, this is the start of war. if we try forgiving others they will also start ignoring our mistakes, on the same time we all appreciate and look forward for being cared, respected and loved.
Someone told me that a person visited some matchmaker for marriage and requested for a spouse. He wanted himself to be helped to find the suitable one. When he was asked to jot down for his requirements along with his qualities, His requirement side was quite demanding “Beautiful, Smart, Humorous, Knowledgeable, Good in extra curricular activities” where as on the other side he was stuck and least concerned here doing this.
A perfect match can be only between a blind wife and deaf husband because the blind wife can’t see the faults of deaf husband and the deaf husband can’t hear the nagging of his wife. Many couples are deaf and blind at the courting stage and dream of everlasting perfect relation. Unfortunately when the excitement of love wears off, they wake up and discover that marriage is not a bed of roses and there after the nightmare begins.
So guys its time to introspect…
